I invite you to consider some transformational ideas about 
vulnerability, shame, worthiness, and whole-heartedness
developed by Dr. Brene Brown, Therapist, Researcher and Storyteller.
Check out her TED Talks in 2010 and 2012, and learn about
her groundbreaking research as described in her CD "Men, Women & Worthiness: The Experience of Shame and the Power of Being Enough."
Most of her books are available on Audible, and TED talks, presentations 
​and more are also freely accessible on YouTube and NetFlix.

Consider Pete Walker's  contribution to our understand of Complex Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder, readily available on his website, http://www.pete-walker.com/fAQsComplexPTSD.html and his reader/client-friendly book, COMPLEX PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving (Azure Coyote 2013).